Toolkit
- Pocket AnchorYour 5 steps, on your lock screen
- My PhrasesYour 3 anchor phrases
- My Fixed No'sCalm, clear limits
- Tide TrackerWatch the storms get smaller
Repair script
Repair in 3 steps
- 1
Come back calm
Wait until YOU are calmer, not until they forget.
- 2
Own what you did
"I yelled. Yelling wasn't OK. I was really tired."
- 3
Keep the limit
"The no still stands. But I'll try to speak more softly."
Apologize for the yelling, not for the limit.
When to call the pediatrician
Reach out if you notice
- Tantrums are very frequent or long and get worse after a few weeks of consistency.
- Your child hurts themselves, holds their breath until they turn blue, or faints.
- Your child has lost skills they already had (speech, eye contact, play).
- There's a speech or developmental delay that worries you.
- Tantrums are still very intense after age 5 or 6.
- There are sleep, eating or weight problems along with the tantrums.
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Bonus
Sleep & Tantrums
What to adjust first