The mistake that makes most moms give up isn't the wrong method. It's switching methods in week two.
A new habit takes weeks to settle, for your child and for you. Think of winning the kingdom little by little, one small flag at a time: one situation at a time, not the whole house at once.
Get the whole house on the same page
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Show the list
Share your fixed no's from Lesson 3.
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Same words
Agree on the same phrases and the same consequences.
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One rule
Whoever said the "no" holds the "no." The other adult doesn't undo it in front of the child.
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Disagree later
If you disagree, talk about it later, away from your child.
Hi! I'm doing a program about tantrums and I'd really love your help. The idea is that we say the same "no," the same way, so they stop testing who gives in. Can I show you the 5 rules I picked? It takes 10 minutes. And if we disagree on something, let's talk about it later, away from them.
That's the message above: copy it and send it to your partner, grandparent or sitter. Then track the tide once a week in the Tide Tracker.